I came across a blog called “Ministry in the Mommyhood,” in which the writer, Jaci Lambert, addressed Target’s recent policy to allow anyone to use whichever restroom they’d like, according to the gender they identify with. The blog title was Target Bathrooms and the Straight, Conservative Preacher’s Wife. The writer describes herself this way:
Let’s get all of my personal facts out on the table before I tell you where I stand and why. I am a Christian. I believe in Jesus Christ as my very personal Savior. I love Him, and I believe He loves me along with every single person on this planet. Without exception. I am straight. I am married to a man. He is a pastor which makes me a pastor’s wife by default. I’m not always a very good one, but I’m an honest one, so my church at least has that going for it. I am a mother. I have four beautiful daughters, and I would start World War III to keep them safe. I am politically conservative, but I have stopped identifying with the Republican party because I think that the whole of Washington has lost their ever-lovin’ minds…across party lines…it’s the one thing they have in common. I believe in the Bible. I believe that every word in it is true. I believe what the Bible says about homosexuality, but I am NOT a homophobe. Because I also believe what the Bible says about loving people. ALL people. Without exception.
I (Charley) disagree with Target’s new restroom policy, with an understanding of why we ever separated restrooms according to biological sex in the first place – for privacy and security. My safety concern is not about transgenders causing harm to anyone. It’s about a non-transgender, normal man, identifying as a man, using the new policy as license to go into women’s restroom and threaten or harm women or young girls. If my adult daughter was still a child, I’d be pretty up in arms about it. Not out of hate or phobia against transgender people, but out of what would seem to be a common sense concern over the safety of my daughter.
I’ve tried to stay out of this for a variety of reasons. But something about Mrs. Lambert’s blog post made me want to list a few of her points and address them. She comes across as a bit sarcastic, but I can’t fault her for that, since I speak sarcasm fluently and that would be the pot calling the kettle black. Anyway, here are my responses to some of her points…
However, I will now simply accompany my kids into the main restroom when we’re at Target because IF they ever came across a man in the women’s restroom, they would be confused.
In other words, before you didn’t feel you needed to accompany your children to the restroom, and now you do. With good reason.
Transgendered people have never hurt my children. But believe it or not, a whole bunch of church people have.
This is a distraction from the main point given for emotional effect. All of us who have spent any time in church can say the same thing. So can all of us who have spent time in elementary school, high school or college; we’ve all been hurt by school people. Or all of us who have spent time working for any company, or participating in any organization; we’ve all been hurt by co-workers. So what? Pointing the finger at church people hurting your children does nothing more than make you appear to have an axe to grind against church people.
Only a small number of people are concerned about transgender people harming children in a restroom. Those people are misinformed and wrong. The majority of concern comes from sensible, concerned people who are concerned about non-transgender men taking advantage of new free access to women’s restrooms to potentially harm women and children. There are reports of such cases.
What does that mean? It means that ANYONE is capable of hurting my children. ANY.ONE. And it’s my job to keep them safe. But what if they did see a transgendered person in the restroom? Would the world really end? No.
Yes. Your children can be hurt many places. And now Target has decided to make a policy that makes their restrooms more likely to be among those places. The world wouldn’t end if they saw a transgendered person in a restroom. The child’s world may in fact end, or be severely damaged, if she was approached or attacked by a male pedophile in a restroom. Target’s policy increases the likelihood of that happening.
Because I would then have the opportunity to explain to my children, who don’t have any choice but to grow up in this messy world, that there are some people who feel like they are different and like they don’t belong anywhere. We could talk about what Jesus would do and how He would expect us to love them and how we would feel if we didn’t belong anywhere.
No disagreement there.
The perverts and the pedophiles don’t care about Target’s policy. Sure it’s one less obstacle in their way, but you really think a store policy is going to keep them from what they desire? Probably not.
Perverts and pedophiles are a determined bunch, to be sure. Would Target’s former restroom policy have kept them from what they desired? Probably not. Will Target’s new restroom policy make it easier to get what they desire? Yes, of course.
But if they do, if the perverts and pedophiles decide to hang out in the women’s restroom, Target will have Hell to pay for their decision. That’s on them.
Great. Tell that to the first female victim who is assaulted in a Target restroom by a man allowed in because of Target’s new policy. I didn’t say “transgender female,” but a man, taking advantage of the new restroom access by dishonestly claiming to be transgender. It has happened before. So when a woman or girl is threatened or assaulted by such a man, just tell her, “Hey it’s fine. Target will have Hell to pay for their decision.” I’m sure that will make her feel a lot better.
Women and children need to be paying attention to their surroundings just like when they’re at the park and when they’re at the grocery store after 10pm and when they’re at church (shoot, I can’t even help myself). Pay attention to your surroundings because perverts and pedophiles like other places besides Target.
Yes, perverts and pedophiles like other places besides Target. And, they now like Target a lot more than they did a week or two ago. Yes, women and children need to be careful in lots of places. And yes, a Target restroom is now one of those places. Congratulations, Target.
THE BIG ONE: This boycott is doing more damage to the Christian cause than it’s helping. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in standing up for our rights and in what we believe in. But this isn’t a “right.” This is a privately owned company setting a policy in place.
That may or may not be true. I can understand that viewpoint. But in honesty, if I still had a young daughter at home, I’d be a lot more concerned about her safety than I would about damaging the Christian cause. Maybe my priorities would be mixed up there, but that’s where I’d stand.
To conclude, I don’t have an axe to grind with Ministry in the Mommyhood – I hadn’t seen it before until I found this article today. More importantly, I don’t have an axe to grind with transgender people. Having a few transgenders in fairly close relationship, I have a sense of the struggle. My beef with Target isn’t about transgender people; it’s about Target, in an attempt to be politically correct, creating a dangerous situation for millions more people than they claim to be helping.
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Ever since my husband passed…I just don’t debate much. I don’t think I’m apathetic….guess I figure life is too short for all that.
I like your clear headed responses, though.
We gotta protect the kids…that’s a given.
Why don’t they add a bathroom that says any gender?
Excellent article. Thank you. I too stumbled upon the same article in Ministry in the Mommyhood.
Though I have no problem with the author, the ministry (great ideas) or dislike/fear transgender folks I am very, very concerned for the safety of my children. That is the issue. In your well- written article, you addressed every concern I had. I appreciated how you directly quoted from Jaci Lambert’s article so as not to stretch her words or make assumptions. Thank you.